For the past month I have been obsessing over what to wear to a wedding, not my wedding, of course, but the wedding of one of my husband's friends.
Right now, if you were to ask me why finding the perfect outfit was so important for this event, I wouldn't even be able to give you a decent answer. But four weeks ago, I could have given you a laundry list of reasons as to why I needed to find something that was dressy, but not too dressy. Something that was appropriate for late summer, early fall weather. And something I could wear dress shoes with instead of sandals.
I don't know if there is another woman who can identify with what I am saying. All I can say is I have spent nearly a month crafting what I have decided is a decent outfit to wear to this event.
It's been a long journey. To tell you the truth it all started when I showed one of my good friends the wedding invitation. When she saw that location of the event, her response was to tell me the ceremony was being held at a castle on a large grassy hillside. She said she had driven up to the location once, and felt horribly undressed just sitting in the parking lot.
Those words did not instill courage in me. Looking through my closet, all of a sudden the colorful sun dress I was planning on wearing just didn't seem quite right.
After coming to this realization, I couldn't even wait to get to the mall to find a new outfit. Instead, I went straight to the computer, hopped on the internet and started shopping. Within minutes I had found a dress I thought would be perfect, the only problem is when I showed it my husband his response was, "It's black. You can't wear all black to a wedding."
All of a sudden he had become a fashion expert, and my dreams of walking into the castle in a black wrap dress vanished. (Oh, yeah and by the time I went to order it they were all out of my size.)
The next step I took to find the "perfect outfit" was to actually go out shopping. I ended up walking through rack after rack of dresses, skirts and dress pants, all in the quest to find an outfit that would be dressy, yet comfortable. It took me nearly an hour, but I ended up settling on a skirt and blouse outfit. I tried it on at the store, loved it, bought it and brought it home.
The second I got home, doubt started to creep into my mind. Did it look too much like I went out and bought an outfit just for the wedding? When I asked my husband this question, he just about fell over. Of course it looked like I had gone out and bought an outfit for the wedding - because that is what I had done.
In the end, I returned that outfit. Bought a new wrap sweater and have decided to pair it with a skirt and a pair of shoes I already own. No more having to worry about looking like I had bought an entire outfit just for the wedding. No more having to worry about wearing all black to an afternoon event. And, after nearly a month I have found the ultimate not too dressy, early fall outfit that I can wear with heels.
After all of this, you'd think it was me walking down the aisle.
. Elena Olmstead can be contacted at (509) 837-4500, or e-mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org