Open Mike

Being a parent is difficult

There was a letter to the editor in last Wednesday's Daily Sun News that about broke my heart to read. It was from a young lady who talked about how tough it is to be a single parent, a mother.

I can only imagine how hard it must be to be a single parent. I would have a tough time raising our kids without Wendy around.

I can remember when Wendy and I found out we were pregnant with Tyler. Actually she was pregnant and I was the head cheerleader. I was so stressed out about Tyler. Here we were just young kids oursleves, thinking the world was ahead of us, and then we find out we were pregnant. We didn't have two pennies to rub together and I couldn't figure out how we were going to support this new person about to enter the world. I actually got so stressed out about it that I had to start taking medication to level me out.

Probably thanks in large part to the medication, I slowly started to realize this impending 9-lb. bundle of joy wasn't going to make me jump off a bridge.

In the woman's letter she talks about being energetic, happy and bubbly before she had her baby. Yes, children will absolutely take your will to live and trample all over it and then hand it back to you with a smile. That is their job.

Why do you think as parents we age 10 years beyond what we are? It is a child's job to make their parents' existence intolerable at times. That is what being a grandparent is all about-revenge on your children.

After you have your child you learn that life will go on. But then I ran into a snag. I had life all laid out ahead of me, but then we found out we were pregnant with Ethan. Now, I thought for sure that Ethan would put one foot of mine in the grave. As a parent I had just got used to having one child. What was two going to do to me? But you slowly find out that two is just as easy as one. In fact, it is the first child that causes you the most problems.

The young lady who wrote the letter talked about being trapped in a dead-end job with a chubby, baby boy attached to her hip, having to give up on the dreams she wanted to pursue. As a parent you do sometimes have to put what you want on hold. After all, you have to clothe and house the little demons that now walk through life with you. You do lose the sparkle you once had.

As a parent there comes a time in your life when you accept what is in front of you and you do so with a smile. You make the decision that you are going to put on hold awhile your dreams and aspirations. But that doesn't mean you have to abandon them completely. As a parent you should always want your children to have a better life than you. And I hope our kids fly high and fast as they soar through life.

Parenting is a tough job and there are days when my sparkle is gone. But in the end, at least for me, the days that are worthwhile are the days you spend with your family.

So, to the young lady in Goldendale, I say keep your chin up. It does get a lot better. It just takes a little bit of time and a little bit of effort.


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